Friday, November 21, 2008

Volunteering.

Hi guys,

After my rant on Wednesday (for which I apologise, I was just feeling really down at the time), I had a comment from Aron which basically said: Stop feeling sorry for yourself, get off your arse and go volunteer. Do something useful instead of moping around all day.

Musicbuff agreed with him...thanks guys!!!

So, on Monday I had already began searching on the internet for local GBLT organisations that I could volunteer with, but to no avail. There was nothing in my area and because of my limited budget I couldn't afford to travel. I was pissed off to say the least, and I think it actually contributed to my foul mood for the next couple of days.

After reading my comments on Wednesday however, I got up on Thursday and thought "Fuck this shit!! I'm not giving up. I want to, and need to, do this!!"
I was in a much better mood than the previous day because I was really looking forward to sorting this out.
So I phoned one of the organisations (non GBLT) in my area and told them I wanted to volunteer. The guy said he'd see what was available. Whilst he was looking at his monitor(?) he asked my age. I told him and then he said "Oh right, we'll we can cross that one off then, and that one, and that one too!! Sorry I don't have anything." Then there was silence. I couldn't believe it, apparently they're crying out for volunteers but they don't have anything, or anything for somebody my age at least!
I didn't let it go and asked if he could give me the names and numbers of any other local organisations. This he did.

I checked out the organisations and decided to contact one that covered the entire district, not just my area.
I spoke to a lady and gave her the same info; age, wanted voluntary work with the GBLT community if possible etc. and we arranged for an informal interview next Tuesday.

I was so happy, it was amazing how much my mood had changed/lifted simply because I felt I would soon have a purpose during my search for work.

I received another comment from Aron early that evening, and it read:

"So, did you grasp the nettle today?" (I had to laugh, how cheeky is that??)

I hope my reply surprised him, he was probably thinking I'd been moping around all day...again.

Anyway, I went to bed still feeling happy that night, even though I still didn't sleep any better...Lol.
I got up today in a geat mood too, I was going to be helping Dick with some DIY. Nothing great about that I know, but it meant I was doing SOMETHING, and we had a good laugh doing it anyway!

Then, around 3.30pm I felt really deflated. The volunteer lady phoned me to say she had to cancel our appointment and she hadn't been able to find anything in the area either.
So, not wanting to give up I said that as long as it wasn't too far, because of the expense, I would be willing to travel further afield. She went on to explain that as a volunteer any travel expenses are paid anyway...Woot Woot!! It was on again!!
She knows of a GBLT drop-in cafe in a large coastal town, not too far away, that may have something. So she is going to contact the person who runs it and get back to me early next week.
I'm not going to hold my breath that there'll be something available there, and I've also told her that I will do something regardless of the outcome. I've got many years of retail management experience so I don't mind putting hours in at a charity shop. I don't give a shit what it is to be honest.

So, I'm back in a happy mood.
I will be volunteering in some way or other.
Whether directly or indirectly, I will be helping others.
It's a good way of meeting new people and networking...might find a job...Lol.
When I do find a full-time job I will still do voluntary work, even if it means a different kind.

I'm so excited...I just can't fucking wait!!!!

*Fingers crossed*

Col

p.s. Thanks Aron & Musicbuff!!! I needed that push...Lol.


A few random bits:
Between the ages of six and thirteen I grew up with two people from the following famous (well, famous in the UK...LOl) bands - Depeche Mode, Yazoo, Erasure, The Assembly.

I nearly always have to have my feet outside of the duvet, even in the depths of winter. They get so hot it feels like they're going to explode...what a freak!

I've never sprained/broken any bones.

Apart from having my tonsils removed when I was four or five, I've never had any other surgery.

I wish I could play the piano.

5 comments:

  1. I originally sent this to Col as an email, but I'm going to post it here, and also on Col's previous post "Reasons And Stuff". Its LONG.

    Hey Col. Sorry, I really wanted to post on your last comment, I had it open among several tabs but I must have closed them all accidentally. I've been using a new add-on for my web browser that saves images opened in each tab (aka porn) but the way it functions is it just downloads the "largest" image on ANY page/tab, and then closes the tab. I have not gotten used to it and keep closing important tabs not just the pictures. Hmph.

    Anyway. Sorry, as I said, I wish I was a few days earlier with this reply/advice/comment.

    You seem to be going through alot of the things I am dealing with also - and I guess I count towards the "32-ish" end of the spectrum LOL. By the way, 44 is not exactly ancient, my friend!!!

    In fact, some of these "young'uns" would be wise to listen to your stories, because your experiences are VALUABLE advice. Anyone who can't see that is a dunderhead. You (and I) have already gone through some of the important "life" experiences, no matter if it was 10 or even 20 years ago, we've had to deal with the same issues that teens are dealing with today. The past is equally as important as the present, you might say, and the new generation must understand that and eventually grasp (the nettle) its importance.

    Emotional is fine. Some of us are more sensitive than others. I also sometimes get choked up, or furious, at things I read and hear about in blogs. Sometimes it makes you feel impotent, that you can't be there to right the wrongs, heal the pains, or just provide guidance and comfort (or even smack some sense into someone LOL).

    I know I have been feeling incredibly lonely lately, as well. Sometimes hearing things about other people makes me feel jealous, and definitely isolate and alone. Sometimes I want to be motivated to go out and make changes in my own life, sometimes I just want to hide my head under a pillow.

    Your insomnia might be something worth looking into from a medical standpoint. There are medications, even homeopathic remedies to try, help you get on a stabilized sleep schedule. My own sleep schedule has been HORRIBLE for years, finally I have gotten some stability from the one medication I am on for my bipolar symptoms.

    In addition, you might really want to look into getting some treatment for depression. I can see so many of my own (and the classic symptoms of) depression, in the words you are saying. Lack of enthusiasm, no motivation, sleep problems, lonely, sad, "depressed". (And of course the lack of job and excercise and even eating habits all don't help). Life just feels flat and empty, doesn't it? I hope you don't feel your life is pointless, hopeless. I know I've been down that road and its NOT a fun place to be. I mentioned I've been on medication now for a few months for my bipolar, but I am still desperately in need of medication for my depression, so I know how you feel. It gets overwhelming very easily.

    I hope you're able to accomplish that - not sure of your health coverage and things like that, thankfully here the medication I need just went "generic" so it costs only a few dollars instead of hundreds of dollars. I've recently started getting public assistance (welfare, unemployment - all sort of the same) so I now have some limited form of health insurance, but I've been so depressed I have not even taken advantage of it!!

    Reach out to someone - a friend, a family member - for a little support. Don't put on a brave face - tell them your problems. They may not be able to offer a solution, but even a little bit of venting can really help. Also look into a counselor/therapist/social worker (again not sure of your exact medical situation) to go to, just to talk things out. It really really helps, and if you can find a good therapist or psych- -iatrist or -ologist, even better. A few months ago in the depths of my really really bad time ("nervous breakdown") I even went to a support group (Bipolar, in this case) - and just seeing how wacko some of the other people were, made me feel a little better LOL.

    So, above all - DO NOT give up on blogging!!! Do not give up on commenting!! Do not give up on chatting/messaging. Its important to maintain some kind of connection to LIFE.

    Oh, and as far as the volunteer thing goes - also a great idea. I can't believe the organizations you looked into were such age-ist assholes. I mean, people in their 70's and 80's even volunteer. Again, you're not so ancient LOL. I'm sure something will come along that will take up some of your time, get you out of the house for a while.

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  2. A BIG HUG AND HOOOORAY FOR YOU!!!!!! You were persistant and did not let your moment of gloom take root!Treat yourself in some way,hold your head high and walk proud my new friend.A new chaptwer of your life is about to unfold! I am truly happy for you.
    PLEASE KEEP BLOGGING! we will want to hear of all your new adventures.

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  3. @ Seth: (replied by email)Thanks again, that must have taken some time. It contains a lot of personal stuff too. Thanks for sharing...*Hugs*

    @ Musicbuff: A big hug to you too *HUG* Lol!
    Thanks for your support and being one of the few people who reads and/or comments on my blog. It's very much appreciated...and I promise I will email soon. I'm better at replying to something than starting something...Lol...I'm afraid of sounding like a complete dickhead!! Lol.
    Thanks again.

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  4. Hey, been out of town, so I just read this. Glad to see that you have been tenacious! Hopefully you have found something to spend your time on.

    Aron

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